The Romance in My Life

or should I say, LACK OF. Time for a little cheese with my whine. Never in a million years (or maybe in that past 37 or so) did I ever think that once I left my husband, I would not find myself in another relationship for nearly 6 years. In September of 1998 I informed the ex that I was interested in a divorce, and we separated, with the divorce becoming final in November of 2000. It seems like an eternity ago. I have placed more profiles/ads on singles websites, and contacted so many guys, only to have blind dates with such losers, I am beginning to lose faith in men altogether. Here is a wrap-up of the few miserable blind dates I have gone on, just to recap...

in no particular order, because I can't recall who came when, just that they all sucked and I don't recall most of their names...quite the impression, you see

- there was the guy from Nepal who I met on a University of Waterloo on-line dating service. He was a masters engineering student who I chatted with via e-mail for a few months, then we decided to meet and go to a movie. Just before the movie we chat casually about past relationships and whether he had ever been married - "I'm married now. My wife and children are coming over from Nepal later this year"...goodbye loser.

- then there was the guy who looked like a teenager who never grew up and out of those worn blue jeans and torn denim jacket and spent the whole night talking about his three ex-wives and how he isn't allowed to see them or his children right now...goodbye loser

- and there was the fairly handsome African-Canadian guy who took me out for a lovely dinner and spent the whole night talking about his ex-wife and child and how much he missed them...goodbye loser

- lets not forget the guy who sat meekly on the other side of the table at the coffee shop, barely uttering a word other than to talk about how he still lives with his mother at the age of 35 and can't bear to part from her...goodbye loser

- and how about the guy that I chatted with online for months and months, finally met and ended up listening to some monologue about a video game he was developing for about 3 hours. he was the dullest guy I had met in a long time...goodbye loser

- and then there was the guy who seemed to be perfect, had a lovely date with here in Port Hawkesbury, and never heard from again, even though he told me over and over again that night what a wonderful time he was having and how much he liked me...goodbye loser

WHAT IS UP WITH MEN???

And the whole on-line experience has been less than satisfying...mostly disappointing, really. The only guys that I seem to snag are creeps, perverts and unfaithful men. give me a break, already. here is a sampling of some of those gems

- the guy who forgot to mention he was married, and then thought it was okay to continue because he was thinking about leaving her anyhow, but needed to work for enough money to send her back home to England...no thank-you

- how about the guy who I chatted with for months, and then finally made the break to a phonecall where he suddenly felt he was on a 1-900-BABE call...forget it mister...no free porn here

- and the guy who thought it was appropriate to ask to see my "tits" and then proceed to show me his penis...sure, that's my opening line when I meet someone

- and the guy who just plainly asked to see my tits after 3 minutes of chat

and it just goes downhill from there. What's a girl to do? Where does someone at my age (37) meet a nice guy? Or do I not deserve one because I gave up on my first relationship. Is that all there is? If I am not into the bar scene, where on earth does someone meet single men? Especially when you live in small town Cape Breton. I am so sick of singles websites...e-mailing guys and never hearing back from them, or when you do, they ask for your pic and then you never hear back from them. I search these sites and the guys there have such high expectations. They are all looking to date Pamela Lee. Just so they know - she ain't looking for YOU!

I don't think I am too picky - I am simply looking for a nice guy - someone who is single, independent, educated, gainfully employed, non-smoker, and has a sense of humour. Is that too much to ask? Where are ya, fellas?

Gawd its pathetic to be lonely and alone.